Agony Aunts

Whom would you classify as an agony aunt? A person who lends ears to cribs and whims of people around- Right?

But what about a profession whose one course of work revolves around being agony aunts? Did you guess it? Of course it is my profession – Responsable des resources humaines (HR). While people never leave a stone unturned in criticizing their HR’s and their work patterns – no one ever fathoms the amount of negativity that is handled by them. Listening patiently to all the problems, complaints and sometimes even useless banter- is int huge handling all the mixed set of emotions and still not loosing calm. Patience is another attribute, which we develop over time. We are just like downloading machines- people come, vent out their concerns, look for resolutions without trying to understand that we are fraught in a conflict with parties of different interests (Leadership, employees, team) and the tussle we go through to make ends meet. And what about our agonies? Who will pay heed to them?

Do i question a lot?

While I know that I ask lots of questions and that too random and unstructured, there have not been many times when people have answered them. We all have been taught to be inquisitive from our younger years – but no one focuses on being able to answer the questions- however weird that might be? Aint it creativity to be able to quiz at everything?  

It is also an irony that one of the personality assessments reveals that I am a structured person – with strong logical reasoning- doesn’t that apply to the questions that come to my mind or is it related only to the answers?

While I see no problem in asking beaucoup questions, I have seen people losing their calm for being fired with a volley of questions?  So should I stop asking questions or keep the question bank in locks till I get the right person to answer (wont the essence go away?)

The Experience

It feels great doing nothing!!!

 It is after a long time that I have had a vacation without purpose and no pending errand in mind- Feels just awesome.  With no thoughts on time utilization, no beliefs about catering to standards set, sleeping and waking without timelines is a mighty feeling (even though body clock doesn’t fail to respond). Having ample time to go on to facebook- peeking into others lives and making your innuendoes public is at times a different experience. Withering away time by wandering around, visiting places, wasting money is just wow. And it’s not too late to realize that I have been stretching myself to limits – trying to make the week look like an 8 day week, stuffing activities to just make it look like mine. Life has its own ways of making you realize that some limits are better to be stayed inside.