The Paradox

This is something which i have not written, it is something i read and liked it instantly because of the sheer truth it imposes on us----

The paradox of our time is that – we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways but narrower viewpoints, we spend more but have less, we buy more but enjoy it less, we have bigger houses and smaller families, more convenirences but less time, more degrees but less sense, more knowledge but less judgement, more experts but less solutions, more medicine but less wellness. We have multiplied our possessions but reduced our values, we talk too much, love too seldom and hate too much. We have learnt how to make a living but not life, we have added years to life but not life to years. We have been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet new neighbour. We have conquered outer space but not inner space, we have split the atom but not our prejudice. We have higher incomes but lower morales, we have become long on quantity but short on quality.These are the times of tall men and short character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are times of world peace but domestic warfare, more leisure but less fun, more kinds of food but less nutrition. These are days of 2 incomes but more divorce, of fancier houses broken homes. It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in stock room.

Formality? Is that a Culture

Am i too formal, even with my near and dear ones? Of course yes would be an answer by my sis!!! Is it right? Have i always been like this- to some extent yes but some contribution is also of the environment around? I still think and wish to be explicitly checked- even if it is my closest friend. It’s just not me- going ahead and expressing myself, i just need one match stick to bring myself to light? Reticent is one word which fits me aptly and probably reticence’s are formidable to understand and clear up.

Birthday Wishes Dear Friend

When i embark on this day today- when its your B’Day- i am reminiscent of the old days, which leave behind a sweet-sour memory. I am wary of calling and wishing you - i want to call you at the fag end of the day and end it with a hearty wish - absolutely in my style, just like i used to do in the yester years. But there is something which stops me, thinking of the fact that it might again invite a conversation- which i am not willing to. Now that you have a family of yours and priorities have changed- it is not even reasonable to divert your attention. Just wanted to let you know that I still miss the weird poetry of yours- dedicated to Tamanna. While i know that you keep enquiring about my well being from your sources- you still repent losing out your “Friend in need”. Warm Wishes Farzi- Hope you make it to the world of your choice very soon.

Caller Tune

What fun do people find in talking about my caller tones, when this is just a choice or like of mine? I am sometimes amazed at the thoughts which these petty things evoke. There have been at least 4 people who have bothered me with their thoughts in this regard. Some feel that the song is just anti-me because i am generally not a person, who would repent on my decisions, other feels that it is too explicit in description when it comes to me as a personality. Another one feels that i have recently undergone a break-up and that’s why the reflection of “pain”. Other advises me to keep such boring and dull songs away as the agony is to be borne by the listener. For some people the song itself is so dichotomous that there are 2 polar ends in the Antara itself and thereby representative of Diadeb. While there are a handpicked few- who know why and what i love about this song and made them also addicted to it. But yes – people definitely wish to co-relate and decipher........ 

                                                      

“Ye kasoor mera hai, ke yakin kiya  hai, dil teri hi khatir rakh chhod diya hai”

Risk it Out

I am not happy, even though this was one small thing I had always yearned for? Just its thought used to enliven my mind with a sense of freedom and undaunted spirit. Now that I am possessing it- I don’t have the courage to make it work for me. Why this thought? Am I worried about consequences? What is it that stops me from taking the risk? Why am I little restrained in experimenting even though I have tried my hands on it earlier?

I believe happiness will return when I would have fought back my fears and apprehensions, made an earnest attempt to overcome my dreadings and a heartfelt and conscious attempt to succeed. The day will be extremely important to me and I look forward to see it happening to me- off course with my own efforts.

Inquietude

I surmise that I am superstitious at times. While I claim to be modern, for few things I really fail to understand my own thought process. The recent one being my worry at my “Bamboo Tree” not picking up growth. Is it my unconscious mind telling me that I am stagnating or there are no opportunities or may be I am not realizing them? It can also be that things are turning yellow and might need extra care and attention. But why is it worrying me? Every mortal has its own life and way of growth. Maybe the environment is not suitable or the owner is not caring. Don’t know but it continues to bother.

The Signature Style

We have always known people for and with their style- which is specific to them and differentiates them from the others. But it is not a rarity now to see that individual styles are getting very monotonous and the patrons are not happy with the in line results of their muses. Just to quote few examples here- Madhur Bhandarkar’s movies have started to reflect same shades now – 1 woman protagonist, few successes, more blotches, lust, transgenders, repeat support cast, scandals and yearning. Same goes for Ram Gopal Varma- who claimed his share of fame with politics and horror based movies. Himesh Reshamiya got duped with his own nasal style of singing. Even if you say Mahesh Bhatt- his movies clearly depict passion, crime, vengeance and horror. While you appreciate the difference in the beginning, it keeps dipping down as the trend is almost the same. While we all may have our individual styles- the key is to keep introducing more nuances and little ingenuity to keep the spark on. Because world watches out for unpredictability but supports style.

Colloquy

This is just another colloquy for Motivation and Hygiene Theory. Indian Girls attire of Suit and Dupatta is very similar to Frederick Herzberg’s view on satisfaction and dissatisfaction. Hygiene factors are just like salt – there presence doesn’t satisfy you but their absence causes dissatisfaction. Similarly dupatta here is a hygiene factor- if you are wearing a kurti- dupatta’s absence won’t matter to you but if it is a 3 piece- absence of dupatta makes you feel bereft and the feeling of something being amiss. You feel the miss to such an extent that you try and shelve yourself with some other parallel stuff.

Every Night Has A Story

I picked up this phrase from one of the advertisements for Liquour industry. And it is so close to life. Every night has its own ending - with the gains of the day tickling your mind or unending problems, bothering it. Before going to sleep- most of us mull over what has the day been like and try to filter out and even carry the same to our subconscious mind and see the same in our sleep.

The story also determines the manner in which we begin the coming day. Some stories fill us up with brightness and others make us ponder, while some take us to lows of life. Life is similar- some stories are to be continued, some to be aborted and rest to be revelled in....



Thought.....

We all are so keen at looking exemplary performances and situations that we fail to appreciate for an expected job - done well. And this phenomenon is not just restricted to corporate life but also in our daily lives. While we have our own little ways to express and make our near and dear ones feel special, have we appreciated them enough for the small but cherishable deeds/moments? Have we ever tried to count our blessings- which are with us in the form of friends and family? How many times have we praised our mother for the regular supply of delectable food, our father for his selfless attempts to make our life run smooth? Have we ever thought of letting our friends know that how important and indispensable they are in our lives? Do we think of returning the cuddle to our beloved for the brief moments of wanting each other? Similarly, in our professional endeavours- we tag a person as an average, even though expected delivery has been met. What if the person has given his 110% to his deliverables? Why do we always look for beyond average performance? Why do also expect our mothers to cook new dishes and our father judged on his capability of providing new gizmos? We expect our friends and partners to stay by us in the trying times- but what about the life lived through them even when life is just normal?

Transform or Tame

It has become very easy for people to ask someone to transform as per the requirements of the situation or job but have we ever thought that this is just another attempt to kill a person’s individuality? A transformed individual goes through a melee of emotions and more than him/her accepting a changed himself/herself- it is others who suggested change – find it weird. It’s just like the saying “My girlfriend first changed my habits and then left me stating that I have changed”.  Irony is int? And this again proves that change of any sort brings resistance. I recently read about something and was particularly impressed with the practicality of the thought “We should learn to tame not transform”- which means making an attempt to bring things in control rather than changing the entire indiviudal. 

Non Comformist

“Abhi abhi awaargi aayi hai, abhi na karo sambhalne ki baat”-This line from a song in Jism 2 is impressive because of its all pervading nature. It beautifully describes the emotions that lovers go through- it talks about those moments of loosing control, letting themselves free from all inhibitions and then the thought of society and world which tames them down. Literally it covers only the physical aspect, but actually it shows us another side as well - we all at some point of time follow our instincts but in the mid way recede - just to conform to standards. Those who continue their journey are tainted as “Creatives” or “Rebels” and those who stop - lurk only in mediocrity as a predefined path doesn't lead to newer things. We all must learn to hear and avoid those voices within us - which stop us from experimenting and trying out- but this doesn’t mean avoiding the devil’s advocate living within us.

Frustiao nahin mora....

Why is it that people vent out their frustration only on one person, even though he/she might not even be responsible for it? While expression of happiness calls for indulgence of all, even though they might not like it but when faced with problems – they flock only to one person. Why is it only one person who faces your fuming temper and gives a reasonable solution? What then happens to all sorts of solution providers?  Are we afraid of exposing our vulnerable side to others or we assume that our grievances will also be used against us? Is it the comfort of company or our secretive nature- which drives us? 

Rewarding Inconsistency

I sometimes find it very weird that, we reward only out of the box actions and pay zero importance  to consistency. And this is clearly visible in all walks of life. Let’s take an example of music industry- KK is one singer, who has given maximum hits and has an array of songs under his belt- whose recall value is the highest. Surprisingly he is one playback singer, whose vocal gift goes well with most actors and gives credence to their acting skills. But how many times do we remember him, when we mention about our favourite playback singers? Its only new noises and voices that get nominated for awards- even though they might last only few songs. While the era is to experiment and welcome the different but do we think of strong standing walls? And probably that is the reason why world now moves on "Use and Throw" Mentality.